After I Do (Taylor Jenkins Reid)

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When Lauren and Ryan’s marriage reaches the breaking point, they come up with an unconventional plan. They decide to take a year off in the hopes of finding a way to fall in love again. One year apart, and only one rule: they cannot contact each other. Aside from that, anything goes.

Lauren embarks on a journey of self-discovery, quickly finding that her friends and family have their own ideas about the meaning of marriage. These influences, as well as her own healing process and the challenges of living apart from Ryan, begin to change Lauren’s ideas about monogamy and marriage. She starts to question: When you can have romance without loyalty and commitment without marriage, when love and lust are no longer tied together, what do you value? What are you willing to fight for?

This is a love story about what happens when the love fades. It’s about staying in love, seizing love, forsaking love, and committing to love with everything you’ve got. And above all, After I Do is the story of a couple caught up in an old game—and searching for a new road to happily ever after.

You know, marriage is a scary thing. It’s very scary. One morning what if you wake up and realize you don’t love your spouse anymore? After being married for five years and over months you lose your spark what do you do? It’s hard to know how a marriage is going to pan out or if it will stay strong so this book was a wonderful glimpse into this uncanny thing called marriage.

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“Here is what I can tell you. All that matters in this life is that you try. All that matters is that you open your heart, give everything you have, and keep trying.”

I wish my husband would read this book. Not because our marriage is bad. Not because I feel like we will get a divorce. But because the lessons that this book instilled is just amazing and eye-opening.

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This book is scary in the sense of you see all of these things you don’t ever want to happen but it can happen. It’s all real. And I imagine it hurts just like I hurt while reading this book. All of this book resonated with me so well. With myself, my marriage, my family. All of it.

The best part of this book was this: you get so connected to one character or multiple characters. You’ll connect with someone. Personally, I connected to Lauren and Ryan’s story almost immediately. The whole book was written immensely well.

“Just because you can live without someone doesn’t meant you want to.”

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Basically I couldn’t put this book down. It was honest and raw. I feel like even if you have a solid marriage you should read it. If you don’t love your husband any more you should read it. This is also one of the most realistic books I have ever read.

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